I like to decorate mine! Our previous one rusted out so I painted the numbers onto our new one (instead of using stickers) and then painted gold ginko leaves all over it with some bugs hiding around them.

I’m legitimately glad that your personal experience of Christianity has been a net positive for you.

I was raised in a very standard First Assembly of God church until I was 12 and then my parents pivoted back to Catholicism. The experiences I had growing up in an evangelical paradigm were horrifying, especially in hindsight. I’m still unpacking the religious trauma in therapy today, nearly three decades after walking away.

So, based on my personal experience, the day to day Christians are precisely the greedy and violent ones that fucked me up, abused me relentlessly, and destroyed my sense of self-worth, not the blowhards on the news. Many of us are walking wounded from the divisive, hate-based, soul-crushing doctrines we were raised in under the guise of Christian love.

I love this.

About to be 43 and more grateful every year that my partner and I are childfree. I like hanging out with my friend’s kids occasionally, they can be funny tiny humans, but I hit a limit quickly and we invariably share a sigh of relief once we’re in the car on our way home.

I’m also grateful that there are folks who love kids and are great, involved parents to them. I’m in awe of my friend’s ability to be the mom she is and I appreciate her efforts to better the collective group of humanity by two. Even more grateful that I was free to make a different choice. It takes all kinds, ya know? And kids benefit from unofficial “aunties”, I think.